Thursday, September 20, 2007
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10:50 AM
Saturday, August 18, 2007
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Roger W Gartman
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1:21 PM
Friday, July 13, 2007
Well, here we are again....only it's 4 wks later. Nancy is still having issues w/her blood markers (c125 to all us in the know). After the last scheduled cycle (this was one treatment every Thurs. (always on Thurs) for 3 wks-then 1 wk off-so "cycle" means 6chemo treatment within 8 wks..got it!) her markers had actually risen again and not dropped. What's this mean....do I really have to spell it out...it means things are not working...whatz this mean...do I need to spell this out as well...it's means that she is going to have to keep doin' more chemo treatments...it means that she has been doin' this since the first wk of Dec. (for those of you who can't do the math-it's been 7 months) and she will have to keep going back until the numbers drop. She had do a doppler (along the lines of an ultrasound) on her right arm 'cuz it's swelling and tender in certain parts. There were looking for a clot...maybe...didn't find anything....but how often do med prof's screw up and miss something....it's almost commonplace these dayz by my findings.
So anyway, inbetween this last round of treatments she had to go and have a port installed. For those of you who don't ahve a clue it's a device that's implanted under the skin just about the breast (which right now she needs to have the implant on that side done again but can't 'cuz she's still doin' fucking chemo...get it!). The reason for the "port" - well after 5 yrs of constantly having to have your veins (they can only use ONE ARM!) poked multiple times each time you have a treatment that wear out/ blow out - it causes a lot of pain, etc. In short, it's like a what happens to a junkie (aka: heroin addict- for those who don't have a clue). You wear your veins out! Now as you have read it may appear that by my writings that I am extremely ...what's the word.....there isn't one....no words can describe how this effects me.....part of me feels insane ....the other part has to cope and deal w/everything from my portion of the trauma....I have no answers...I can't fix this! And I can fix just about any fucking thing!
So, on top of this Staci (for those not in the know...Nancy's "only" daughter) is having major struggles w/what is "Stage 4" breast cancer. It's in the bone up by the collarbone/shoulder area. She has been bombarded for 5days/wk for 7 wks w/radiation...then every wk she does the chemo thing (she & Nancy do chemo together on the same day/time...gee wht a great family activity) and it's still does not look promising....which means "terminal"...get that...T..E..R..M..I..N..A..L!! JUST LIKE NANCY!! We know she is but we don't really talk about that...I refuse to believe that and figure in my own feeble mind that things will work out. If I chose to look at it differently...I go insane and lose my mind! I have no idea how they both handle it. I know they've talked w/each other about who will go first....we just don't hear it....it's their own conversation which we are not allowed to hear.
So, we're in Dallas (Grand Prairie) tonight for a race Sun. > it gives us the feeling that things are normal. It's as close as we can get it sometimes.
I'm sorta on a roll tonight...I am bitter!...this is robbing my of someone that loves me just for me (and tolerates it) and I'll neva be able to find that again!!...EVER!!
I gotta go...got to get back on the positive side of things....the goal "To keep Nancy alive so we can make it to Ironman...TOGETHER!!! My dream...her dream....always has been.
So, I'll end as usual until next time....Mucho love, Roger
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9:45 PM
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Well Damn!!....I am just ..I dunno ....so upset for Nancy! She had to go in for surgery yesterday to get a "port" put in. SO, you don't know what that is I would assume. It's a medical device that actually has to be inserted under the skin just above the breast area for them to be able to infuse the chemo drugz. Why this, 'cuz her veins are all used up and they cannot use her other arm since she had breast cancer and had to have the lymph glands removed. You cannot use this side 'cuz it has complicated issues w/trying to inject anything from that side. You can't even use it to draw blood from.
So this is another episode that she has been trying to keep from having to go through. She was so set against it 'cuz it's like a constant "daily reminder" that you have cancer. I know that she never forgets but I would believe at times you are able to disassociate yourself from that part of your daily living. I mean...sheez....it seems like things are so ongoing this time around. It's goin' on the middle of June and we're still dickin' around w/this crap!! Shoulda been finished last March at the end of the month.
Nancy is quite the trooper though! She seems to at some point try to accept these things. She got up and went to work this morning at my dismay. She really is a very healthy, physically fit person. She just gets cancer! What kinda deal is that. I guess I'll neva be able to quite bridge those together.
Even though "I" try to accept what is going on this time around it's still quite difficult for me to grasp and try to just have a day w/o incident. I suppose for the most part that is what I do. I try to adapt to the situations that arise and aid/support Nancy to the greatest extent that I can. I guess sometimes it might not give that appearance but I do try.
Most of the time you can't get many signals from Nancy as to how she's processing things. I have to try and drag them outa her. That's another chore wthin itself. But it's probably her way of disassociating herself w/the matters at hand to live life each day as though it's just another day.
Anyway, we'll be back doin' chemo this Thursday at the regular time. Join her and Staci doin' the IV thing together. Just doesn't quite look right.
So life goes on and as you know in my feeble world "it's just another day in paradise" > which means I get to love FancyNancy another day!!
Mucho love,
Roger
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11:00 AM
Saturday, June 02, 2007
Friday, June 01, 2007
Round 9 & 10
Well...of course I'm draggin' my ass about keeping up with the current status of things. Wouldn't you think I'd be a little more on track than this....no excuses > I don't let anyone give me excuses and I expect no more from myself (did I state that correctly?) so....I have no excuse.Nancy has finished the 3 treatments in a row (3 each wk - 3 wks) and had this Thursday off. Just like a job! She/we don't know what the blood markers are at right now and won't until probably this coming Monday (6/4/07). Kiefer still set her up for another series of 3. So the struggle, battle, fight, anxiety, frustration and general pissed off attitude continues on.However, Nancy still has her seemingly (I never quite know) attitude and takes it all in and I believe that she is very thankful that she is still able to be treated. I've got some races coming up this month and I am really skeptical of how things will go. She always goes with me! I can't go by myself or rather I don't like to go without her! It's always been part of the program > she's the only one I hear yelling for me > she's always there at the finsih line > DAMN!This treatment style leaves her in a perpetual state of fatigue. She's fine the day after but the following coupla dayz are somewhat of a recovery stage. I am somewhat apprehensive about her traveling with me out of state (it's for a 2-3 day stint) and I am afraid it will be more activity than she needs. She won't be up and running around all over the place. We stay pretty stationary up until race day and then it's just for a coupla hours. There is one event at the end of this month that will be a 5+hour race/event. It will be very hot out and probably very humid (Lubbock, TX)and I think it would be a real drain on her. It's something we'll have to address the closer we get.So peepz...all in all we're/she's on a different track now and this will be a 7 month run since the first treatment at the beginning of Dec/06.Nancy's very strong belief in GOD sustains her! It's what gives her the most strength, she accepts what is given. She finds comfort in that!As for me...I just keep tryin' to be the best I can be knowing that somewhere I'm missing the mark....but I keep tryin'!
As always until next time...mucho love!
Roger
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9:02 PM
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
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Thursday, April 19, 2007
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Monday, April 16, 2007
Posted by
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8:23 PM
Monday, April 09, 2007
Well, as you can see it's been a month since I last updated this. Am I stupid or what...sometimes I don't know where my time goes but I've had too many opportunities to do the update and just let it slip by.
So, on this last round of chemo on 3.29.07 it was a typical morning where I went swimmin' and Nancy hung around the house doin' what she does (?). Just bein Nancy. It was a rainy day. I hate those days when you go to do this stuff. Like it's not dreary enough!
We headed to Panera to do the usual deal w/the bagel, cream cheese(always honey walnut) and coffee. Of course Nancy was doin' water. She's been very diligent since her last round w/all the poking that went on and her being dehydrated so much that they couldn't hardly hit a vein. The first attempt as I could tell was not going to happen. The nurse didn't have the "touch" and I know it made her feel inadequate but that's the way it is. So we waited a bit for "Connie" to come do the deal. She's a real whiz and that's who we'll always wait on each time to get the IV started. I did learn a new term. "Blow the vein"; this is when the needle is first inserted (after the pumping of the hand and slapping the wrist action) and it's pulled back a little to get the blood flow. Well, in this case on the first attempt this is what happens: the needle actually penetrates the vein ....but...it goes through the outside of the vein thus "blowing a hole" in it. Then the vein is not usuable because it will allow the "drugz" to seep out of the hole in the system and not directed to where they need to go. No wonder I was neva interested in the nursing profession.
So after that things were at their norm. Nancy and Staci sat around and talked, laughed and just in general bein' the buddies that they are. I read the paper and the running magazine that I had and made comments on the state and worldly news that I was reading. It's called the "Gartman Hour" and of course this is only within the confines of my own mind and nobody else gets it.
Since the chemo day Nancy has been through the usual perpetual fatigue stages and has managed again as of last week to be able to have enough energy to go out and walk around "her" track. I did manage to go w/her one evening. I feel like she's been a little bit moodier than in past treatments. I don't know if it's the drugs, her stress at work (deal w/a lot of immature acting people (young women) that haven't developed the true concept of adulthood) or just the general run of things such as having to live w/me. Now that would be one of the more likely perceptions. I am a very high maintainence person which I do not deny. I try to keep things at as much of a minimum as my daily personality will allow. I have made very strong attempts to do more than I have in the past and to make sure that she doesn't have to deal w/anymore than she has to. So we've got about 10 more days until the "next Thursday". I know that she is hoping that this will be the last treatment for this round. You just neva know until the Doc says so. So we continue to carry on in the usual fashion of daily living and just be happy that we are together and are able to laugh at whatever I can do to generate the humor. If I get a pic I'll post it. I don't have any on this system I'm blogging from.
Until the next time....keep your head down and your eyes up...run fast, run far and always remember; A body in motion..stays in motion!
Mucho love,
Roger
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Thursday, March 08, 2007

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8:08 PM
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Well, it's been right at two wks since the last treatment for Nancy. I have been "observing" and felt like she was recovering well and that she seemed to have more energy than normal. I asked her this morning how she felt (I do that pretty much daily) and she stated that she was feeling a little tired and that she felt more tired this time around than usual. Now, that was interesting to hear since I just stated that I thought she seemed a little more energetic than usual. She has been sleeping quite well which is very much aside from the norm. There has not been the usual circumstance of having the acid reflux issue or heartburn that had been prevelant as before during some of the treatments. As always her spirits seem to be quite high and that she has a certain amount of peace about her. I really don't think that's the case but that's just Nancy's personality. She doesn't want to feel like a burden to anybody and the only thing that seems to be of concern to her right now is that her car is continually leaking oil that I'm not taking care of. I know this is a major irritation to her but she looks past it since she knows that I'm trying to ramp up my training for the upcoming race season. Seems like this is not the priority and I understand that. It's just a certain type of "procedure" to give us the "perception" that everything is normal. But, in my life the normal is not anywhere close to the norm. That's it for this time around. I'll be back next Thursday (3/8) and give another update after that treatment day.
Austa ur leggo (thtz a very poor way of speaking Spanish),
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10:53 AM
Thursday, February 15, 2007
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8:19 PM
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
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Roger W Gartman
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3:11 PM
Thursday, January 11, 2007
At this point it's more like my account of what's going on w/Nancy.
We had a really great Christmas! It's always just Nancy & I on Christmas morning. Very intimate, very special for and w/someone special. It's funny 'cuz Christmas Eve was spent just driving around after a movie and eating at a Taco Mayo...what a deal! But that's the way it is w/FancyNancy! She's not a high maintainence person whatsoever. If you knew her you just couldn't help but love her.
But the real deal is that once again in December, just as last year she started chemo treatments again. The only difference this time is that she is not responding to the treatments after having two of them. When she started on the first one on 12/21/06 her blood markers were around 135..extremely high for someone who has been battling this cancer for 4.5yrs on a chemo cycle of every 6-8mos. Well on the last blood work her markers had risen to 250....which means after two treatments they aren't working. Really, really bad news!
So, for further information she is also a 29yr-2 time breast cancer survivor. We're talking about someone who has had to endure two different types of cancer. She is a true warrior of life!!
I think everybody should be able to experience the personality of FancyNancy!
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